Mailbag: Top 30 feedback letters on binge eating, Elevation, power lines, $10k rents & school schedules

Mailbag: Top 30 feedback letters on binge eating, Elevation, power lines, $10k rents & school schedules
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This is part of an ongoing series titled Mailbag, items readers submit via email or our feedback form. We get a ton of feedback, this is not close to everything (it’s about 4%), but it’s a good sample.


In response to: You may be a binge eater and not even know it

“Thank you so much for your article on binge eating. I’ve been battling with eating disorders and binge eating for 13 years (since middle school). I’ve never been overweight and haven’t been underweight since high school, so it’s always been easy for me to lie to myself about the realty that yes, I still have a problem, and no, this is not how life is meant to be. There is nothing more isolating than feeling like you are the ‘only one’ with a particular issue, so I just want to let anyone know who is struggling – you are not alone. Change does not happen overnight. But you deserve to treat yourself like you treat the people you love. And as someone who has ‘started over’ on this journey a million times, you are not defined by your setbacks, but by your comebacks.” – D


In response to: Why won’t Charlotte bury its ugly power lines?

“If they bury the lines and then have a problem with the underground lines (power outage), people will lose their freaking minds over how much LONGER it takes to repair and get the power back on. Lord people. Stop acting so snooty and be happy you have power.” – P

“My entire hometown in Iowa buried the power lines decades ago. It looks amazing.” – A

“Aside from the aesthetic issue, we’d like to add our concern for driver safety on South Blvd. In many areas, the power poles are less than one foot from the curb, which creates a tremendous risk for drivers in heavy traffic. I hope city planners are paying attention to that. (Of course, if everyone would stick to 35 MPH, it would be much safer.” – V


In response to: Fire House Bar & Lounge replaces crematorium and debuts table service, DJs, bar swings and hookahs in South End

“Why is Jessica Biel on the poster of the opening but no mention of her being there? Can we just do that now? Hey guys Justin Timberlake is on my birthday poster at my house this weekend.” – A

“How incredibly disrespectful to put a bar in a crematorium and call it Fire House. Are other people somehow not making the connection or do they think this is some cute tongue-in-cheek thing to do? I’m aghast.” – S


In response to: Carolina Theatre’s giant glass box lobby and 20+ story luxury hotel begins construction in May

“Wow this is really cool. With all the bland apartments going up, happy to see something slick in uptown.” – A


In response to: I thought I couldn’t love happy hour at Craft more, but then I learned about their $6 cheese plate on Wednesdays

“Wondering if you give restaurants a heads up before posting articles like this? I adore Craft and especially their cheese and meat boards, but their poor staff was nothing short of overwhelmed last night and I have a feeling it was because people found out about this special from this. Just saying. There’s a reason some things should stay secret…” – A


In response to: Elevation Church should disclose pastor Steven Furtick’s salary because even if he makes millions, that’s cool

“As a regular attendee of Elevation Church, I acknowledge that we do church differently. It was off-putting to me at first. After my first visit, I left and didn’t come back for a few months. But guys, God is doing some unbelievable things through our church… I tithe faithfully, and I trust that my church is faithfully stewarding the resources God has provided.” – A

“If this church were taxed, think of the amount of help it would do our community. #taxthechurches.” – S

“Steven Furtick is the Exec. Producer and Co-Writer of the most popular Praise and worship music collection in the world, with the most recent CD at #9 on iTune’s music charts. He’s also a NY Times Best-Selling Author. He’s Pastor of a church of 21,000 Sunday attenders; a church that injects millions into the community to help others. So, yeah, he’s rich: Legitimately. Anyone who had accomplished this would be as well. Far from ‘fleecing the flock’. The only issue some seem to have is that he’s Christian with money.” – G

‘He’s just the most recent guy in a long line of a Christians lined up to fleece a gullible flock. Wrapping up spirituality in a flashy entertainment package has been a tried and true way to get folks to fork over their hard earned $$ for generations. Don’t think for one second that the majority of what he does isn’t to glorify himself and stuff his pockets as full as they can be. He’s gross, and the Agenda is gross for excusing his grossness.” – J

“If poor Obama had to release his long form birth certificate to prove he’s not from Africa, this guy can share how much he takes home from his congregation’s contributions.” – L

“I used to not go here because of the perception and what the media said. Then I went and now I truly get it and why people love this place. It’s truly a place where you get this urging need to want to hear the message. That’s not a cult, it’s just that Pastor Furtick delivers the message like no one. I could care less what Pastor Furtick makes. It would not change my perception of the Church or him. Who says a Pastor shouldn’t get paid. That’s old school and Elevation is nothing old school.” – D

“It’s ‘cool’ that Furtick dupes thousands of people into giving up their money in honor of the Magic Sky Man?” – W

“I did a bit more digging (because the Agenda couldn’t be bothered with actual reporting) and found out that 2016’s revenues were $47.1 million, with $5.7 million given to charity. If I did my math correctly, that is 12% of their revenue given back to charity. TWELVE. For anyone believing this church is anything but a corporation, think again. Now, some people say that 12% shouldn’t be the measure of a church’s success. It should be the number converted (16,018 “decisions for Christ,” according to their report) along with numerous other factors. Fine. But what did those 16K converted DO with their newfound life? Apparently, they threw money into a spectacle with smoke machines, flashing lights and, don’t forget, 37,345 ‘free’ t-shirts.” – F


In response to: Dear CMS, please don’t end the school year on a random Tuesday

“Teachers definitely prefer option B. It really stinks to go back on a Monday after a break, you spend the entire last weekend of the break lesson planning.” – A

“Tuesday!?! What are parents supposed to do with that week?” What would those same parents do with the next week? Do that, just starting at Wednesday instead of Monday. If that sounds nuts with roughly 10+ months prior to this odd set of 3 days work on another strategy. Thousands of years of evolution have got us here. Don’t let 3 days ruin it all.” – B

“Both calendars have a teacher workday on Halloween but require students to come back to school on November 1 – after what will no doubt have been a late night of trick or treating. I’d like to suggest that we spare teachers their presence on the 1st but all go to school on the 31st as festivities don’t begin until the evening anyway.” – C

“The bigger question is still ‘Why this focus, rather than “what makes a good student?” and “what makes a good school?'”. We have high poverty, low diversity schools that are showing academic growth. Why are your articles not focusing on what goes on in those schools and how this can be scaled up?” – V

“It’s also frustrating to read this same stuff over and over without any acknowledgement of the most important people in a child’s education, the parent(s)/guardians. Institutional racism, lack of mobility and generational poverty have all contributed but alas, we’re here and we cannot continue to ignore the role of a parent in instilling a jest for learning.” – A


In response to: The most expensive rental home in the state is in Charlotte and it’s renting for $10,000 per month

“I like the closet and they can keep the rest of the house for that rent, thank you!” – J

“I drive past this house every single day and was so curious about it. It’s been on the market for a year maybe. Beautiful home. Doesn’t quite fit in Eastover though.” – L

“What’s the deal with that room without a TV in it? Is that for people to sit around and talk to each other? No thanks!” – M


In response to: Unpopular Opinion: You don’t need to go make a bunch of new friends

“As someone who is working, going to school, side-hustling, and in a relationship, I have noticed that my circle of friends has gotten really small in the past couple of years. I am also an introvert, so I need to spend time by myself to recharge. I can only realistically maintain a relationship with a handful of people, and although it’s hard to see people on Social Media looking like they are having so much fun with a huge squad, I just can’t right now. And I don’t think I will ever be that person.” – P

“Reading this piece just took a weight off my shoulders that I’ve been carrying since I moved here two years ago. Its really hard to shake the voice in my head that says ‘You had 3 best friends in Atlanta, why can’t you make 3 best friends in Charlotte?!?'” – S

“I wanted to say that I totally agree about the friendships of quality versus the acquaintance friendships you can accumulate to fill your phone and social media. In moving to Charlotte by myself, I discovered the disparity between these friendships of my heart with my true friends who lived elsewhere and the efforts I made to find like-minded friends here. Luckily ten years later I have found a few girls who part of my inner circle in Charlotte. The time alone here also convinced me how deep the friendships are and lovely these inner circle ladies are and how lucky I am to have them in my life–even living thousands of miles apart.” – M


In response to: Does Charlotte know how to date without drinking?

“This is so beyond true! My boyfriend and I have been trying to avoid heavy drinking, but almost every event surrounding Charlotte revolves around drinking. I’ve said this in the past and people usually respond with some type of outdoor activity, well mother nature has been a bit temperamental lately so I can’t count on that. It makes it even more difficult when my brother and his girlfriend who doesn’t drink come into town and want to do something, it’s not her fault, I just don’t know what/where we should go! I wish we had more alternative non-drinking activities in Charlotte.” – K


In response to: Charlotte’s big report on economic mobility was a letdown — because the city is anxious for action

“If the inability for the City and County to take meaningful action at Eastland is any indication of their ability to implement any of the ideas in the Economic Mobility Report, then we’re in trouble. Despite well intended efforts, the Eastland site remains a scar the has diminished economic development and subsequently economic mobility in east Charlotte for a decade. Property values of neighborhoods around the former mall area have been depressed for years because of inaction.” – J

“The researchers themselves acknowledge the study’s limitations and the lack of causality among many factors. What did seem to have overwhelming influence, however, was the multiple negative impacts caused by the stresses of single-parent families. That is why there is so much emphasis on commitment to marriage and two parent families.” – J


General:

“Went hiking at Crowders today. If y’all do any stories about hiking this Spring, can you please talk about the importance of taking the appropriate amount of water? I saw so many idiots today without any water at all! Don’t even get me started on the need for food and other emergency supplies.” – Concerned Eagle Scout

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