Note: How does Blind Date work? Charlotteans fill out this Agenda Blind Date Survey about their make-or-breaks, their ideal types and their perfect dates. Then the Agenda plays matchmaker by sending couples out on blind dates. Below are the results. Want the chance to get matched? Fill out the survey!
Note: We’re switching things up with this month’s Blind Date.
I promised our couple total anonymity in exchange for candid post-date interviews so I could give you an article free of “The date was a 5/5! We won’t see each other again though because we had no chemistry.”
Meet Julie and Mike (not their real names).
Julie’s friends would describe her as “witty, a dog mom, and funny af.” Mike’s best friend would say he’s, “down-to-earth, lovable, funny, and genuine.”
I matched them because of their similar, quirky senses of humor, shared interests, and compatible descriptions about what they’re looking for in a partner.
I sent these two on a wine tasting. Let’s see if the merlot they tried was the only thing getting high scores that night…
How would you describe the Charlotte dating scene?
Mike: I think it’s probably okay for what it is. I say it that way because if you expect it to be a big city like New York or D.C. or something, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
I use dating apps for the majority of my dates, but I think there are opportunities to meet people.
For me, it’s more you gotta put yourself in the right position, whether it’s an activity or a shared interest group or something like that.
I will say, I was in Brooklyn and I observed people there were a little bit more receptive to me just randomly striking up a conversation than they were here. But that said, it could be the person or the neighborhood, or a whole bunch of different factors. I’d say it’s fair, all said and done.
I think, too, the other thing is you kinda realize once you’re outside of college that’s probably the best place you could have met somebody.
Julie: It’s honestly not as bad as what everybody else says it is.
I think it’s good, I haven’t met anybody yet, but I’ve been on a lot of dates with a lot of quality people that I think are good people, I just haven’t found anybody to click with.
How did you feel leading up to the date?
Mike: I was really excited leading up to the date.
I’ve never done a blind date before, so it was a super cool experience to me. I like going on dates just to meet people. It’s cool to hear about other peoples’ lives and what people do for a living and all that kind of stuff. Also I’ve always wanted to do a wine tasting.
Julie: I go on a decent amount of dates so I feel like I used to get nervous, but I don’t really get nervous anymore.
If nothing else it’ll be an experience. I used to hate dating and my friends would be like, “Why don’t you ever go on dates?” But now I’ll have three dates in a week and they’re like, “What the heck?!”
What was your first impression of your date?
Mike: She seemed really chill and easy to talk to. That was true. That panned out.
She went for a handshake and I went for a hug so that was probably a different mentality now. I’m more of a hugger. I went for it and was like, “Heyyy!” But that’s how it goes.
She wasn’t necessarily someone I was attracted to, but she was definitely well dressed and put together.
Julie: I had the best conversation with my Uber driver on the way there. We were having a heart to heart and I was like, “Wish me luck!” I told him all about it and he was telling me all about his family.
It was so uplifting. I never have bad days and I had a terrible day, so it was really good to pump me up. I got out of the car and immediately saw him. He was dressed really nice and I really liked that. He had a nice smile. He hugged me and I don’t like when strangers hug me, but I think he was just nervous.
He was cute, not really my type per se looks-wise, but I don’t let that dictate anything on the dating apps either, so that didn’t necessarily mean anything.
How did it go?
Mike: There are a couple things that are kind of important on a date to have chemistry, and one of those is the same sense of humor and general introverted versus extroverted.
I think she and I were just on different sides of things.
That said, I mean I had a great time talking to her. We were there for, like, three hours. She was super easy to talk to and funny and stuff like that, she just had a much different sense of humor than I did. I like to be around people all the time and I got the sense that maybe she’s not that way, so I think we’re just very different on a lot of things.
Julie: I really think that because of my unfortunate day, I think I was acting fine, but maybe I was a little distant.
I think if it would have ended more quickly it would have been better, but it lasted three hours.
At the two-hour mark I was like, “This isn’t going well enough where you know when you’re on a really good date you’re not paying attention to the time.” He could probably tell I wasn’t fully there. I was to the point where I’m starting to be like, “What time is it? I need to leave. I need to go check on my dog.” I didn’t say that to him, but he could probably tell I wasn’t fully there.
Rate your conversation and chemistry on a scale of 1-10.
Mike: Conversation was a 6 and chemistry was a 2.
Julie: Conversation was a 2 and chemistry was a 3.
So there won’t be a second date?
Mike: No second date. I think we both kind of knew and I was like, “Hey, I just want to be honest with you, you’re a good person but I just don’t think there’s a whole lot of chemistry”
She was like, “Yeah, no harm, no foul. Thanks for being honest.”
Julie: No, I’m so sorry. We went outside and I was like, “If he asks for my number I’m just gonna give it to him and we can talk and maybe try this again.” I mean I was willing to go out with him again.
I didn’t think I was into it but I was like, “Let me try this again.” He was like, “Yeah, I don’t think we have chemistry but it was really nice meeting you.” I was like, “Good, I’m glad he said it.” Then after that I felt really bad because maybe I was distant. I felt terrible like it was my fault. I was in a bad mood. But then it’s like no, if he saw it too then it was just us.
Note: How does Blind Date work? Charlotteans fill out this Agenda Blind Date Survey about their make-or-breaks, their ideal types and their perfect dates. Then the Agenda plays matchmaker by sending couples out on blind dates. Want the chance to get matched? Fill out the survey!