How does Blind Date work? Charlotteans fill out this 37-question Agenda Blind Date Survey about their make-or-breaks, their ideal types and their perfect dates. Then the Agenda plays matchmaker by sending couples out on blind dates. Below are the results.
Welcome to the Agenda’s Blind Date series.
This is the latest in a multi-part series in which I match single Charlotteans of all ages.
Applicants sent me a few details on things like their views on politics, religion and marriage and trusted me to send them on a true blind date.
Those selected don’t know anything about their date except the essentials – name, age and one thing that I thought would make them a good match. They don’t even get to see a picture.
After sifting through over 1,100 applicants, I set aside several pairs and, based on their survey answers, set up a date I thought they’d enjoy.
Next up: Angela and Ben.
Angela, who is in her late twenties, loves the brewery scene and anything that gets her moving, including biking, walking and workouts that end in beer. In a sentence, she describes herself as an “extroverted introvert who loves podcasts, good beer and great conversation” while her best friend says she’s “loyal, kind, funny and a bit of a wildcard.”
Ben, also in his late twenties, says he that while enjoys breweries, he really enjoys drinking outside (“Pools, patios and breweries. Love ’em all”). He describes himself as “tall, tan, tryin’ to be handsome” and his best friend says he’s “funny and fun to be around. A go-to guy when you want to do something.”
I matched the two of them because in addition to their senses of humor, everything lined up: favorite types of bars, political views, ideal first dates, favorite things to do — you get it.
When asked about their ideal first dates, they both said drinks … and that was about it. Angela did mention that if a date is going well, she enjoys keeping the night going and moving to different venues. Because of this, I tried something a little different that I haven’t before when it comes to Blind Date: A date with a sort of ‘choose your own adventure’ feel.
Their starting point was Brewers at 4001 Yancey, but the rest of the night was up to them. Here’s how it went.
How do you feel about the dating scene in Charlotte? And if you’re in it, how are you meeting people?
Angela: I think the dating scene in Charlotte is fine. I think people complain about it a lot, but I think you get out of it what you put into it.
I’m on the apps, but the couple of relationships I’ve had, I’ve met them in person organically rather than on the apps. I’ve had fine experiences here and there, but nothing too serious has ever come out of the apps for me. I prefer to meet people in person when it works.
Ben: I’m not a huge dater in general. I don’t do any of the apps or stuff. I usually just meet people at bars or through friends.
Maybe it’s a personal thing, but I’m not great at meeting people. I feel like a lot of people you meet are married or in long-term relationships, so it’s weird being single here, I’d say. Sometimes I feel like that aren’t that many other single people here. It’s not frustrating yet, because I’m 27. I have time.
How did you feel leading up to the date?
Angela: I felt not nervous at all until the Monday before when I sent you my outfit. I was like, ‘Oh, I’m actually doing this.’ I was a little nervous because I’ve never been on a blind date before, so there was just an added layer of nerves, but I was more excited about the experience than anything. For me, the big difference is that on an app, you’re acknowledging at least a little bit that you’re attracted to each other, but on a blind date, you have no idea.
Ben: I wasn’t nervous until the day of. I’ve never done a truly blind date before and when it kind of hits you, it’s like, ‘OK, I actually don’t know anything about this person or what they look like.’ That was nerve wracking going over there, but I wasn’t too nervous. It turned out well.
What was your first impression?
Angela: I definitely thought he was cute. To be honest, he’s not normally the type of guy I go for, but I think that’s a good thing. He was cute and easy to be around. It didn’t feel awkward from the get-go.
Ben: It was good. We sat down, and conversation just started from there. It was a good first impression.
Did you guys get along?
Angela: Yeah. I thought it was really easy. There weren’t any lulls, conversation flowed really well, we talked about a lot of different things and it was just really easy. We were at Brewers for a few hours. We did walk to Sugar Creek after and had a couple of more beers there and really shut down Sugar Creek.
I think there was chemistry. I’ve been thinking about that question a lot. I think it’s kind of hard, knowing that you’re going to write about it after. I don’t know if I was too in my head, but I do feel like there was and I would definitely want to hang out with him again.
Ben: Yeah, we hit it off. Conversation flowed really well, and we vibed well. It was easy. I think we’re both pretty talkative people, so it was pretty easy to connect on a lot things and talk about a lot of stuff.
We had two or three drinks at Brewers, then walked over to Sugar Creek, and we stayed there until it closed. We were together probably three, three and a half hours.
How did you leave it?
Angela: We exchanged numbers, hugged. No plans or anything, but we texted a little bit yesterday. He’s going out of the country for a little while, so I guess we’ll see when he gets back.
Ben: We exchanged numbers. I texted her earlier today, and while I’m going on vacation next week, I think we’re going to try to hang out when I get back. I’d hang out with her again.
What rating would you give the date? Let’s do it on a one to five scale.
Angela: I’d give it a five. I had a really great time, good beer, good conversation. It was a really good night.
Ben: I’d give it a five. We hit it off well, and the date as a whole, I’m a big fan of drinks in a casual atmosphere, so that was good.
Responses have been lightly edited for length and clarity.